I know this sounds crazy, but emotions are at the base of all diseases. When we think about our health issues we look at them like they are something new, something that recently developed, when in reality it has taken years to get there. We are taught as children to act a certain way, to suppress emotions like anger, frustration, grief, sadness, anxiety and love. Yes, love is often a suppressed emotion.

Men are especially taught to keep a tight reign on emotions like grief, sadness, frustration or anger. Is it any wonder then that women outlive men by 5-7 years on average. Men typically have high stress jobs or labor intensive positions that add another layer of stress to their bodies. Now that women have been in the workforce we are seeing this happening to them as well. Men are more likely to die of heart attacks and women from heart disease. Interesting they both deal with the organ of love.

Let’s break this down. I see a lot of people on a day to day basis. They come from all walks of life, all different backgrounds and ethnicities. One thing they all have in common? Emotional stress. Whether it be from their job, their kids, financial strain, complications in relationships with spouses, family or friends, etc. It all boils down to how we deal with the stresses of our day to day life.

When I interview clients, one of the questions I ask them is about the stressors in their lives and how they deal with them. A lot of them will reply with, ‘I just try not to think about it.’ I can tell you from experience that is THE PROBLEM. 🙂 Showing or expressing emotion is not a bad thing, it is not a sign of weakness or that you are lesser in some way because of it. God gave us emotions to be expressed, to learn to overcome negative emotions in more creative ways so they don’t become detrimental to our health. I tell all my clients to find a hobby, or develop one. Something they truly enjoy doing, whether it is painting, music, fishing, camping, hiking, whatever, but do it EVERY day. Take the time to spend on yourself to heal the body of those negative emotions so they don’t become a health issue later on. Creative expression is awesome. I have seen some amazing talents come out of it.

When I was much younger (an ice age ago…LOL), I had a lot of pent up emotions from being bullied, from issues with family and my ex husband. I learned to let go using hobbies. I learned to do a variety of things to help me express those emotions in another way. Am I perfect? Not by a long shot. I do feel I have grown emotionally though and I am so much better off now than I have ever been in the past. This is partly due to me being able to let go of those negative emotions, the anger, the hatred, the frustration, the guilt, the grief and feelings of abandonment and worthlessness. I know my value now and I feel it has helped me to become a better healer. I can relate to people better because I have been down that road too.

This is also where floral essences can work wonders. Flower essences can often unblock emotions we didn’t even know we had that keep us from healing completely. I had one client recently tell me (after working with her for over a year) that the floral essence she got from a company I use (www.freedom-flowers.com) actually helped her feel motivated to do something for the first time in years. This sounds crazy I know. The subtleties of floral essences often work when other things have not because they help us to release those long suppressed emotions that have kept us from healing entirely. This is when the real healing begins. Often these emotions stem from childhood, which tells you how long we hold on to things and let them fester within us. This is how chronic illness takes hold and despite everything else you may do, you just don’t heal all the way. You get stuck, in a divot.

I have seen how hobbies and the use of essences, either one or both, can help a person heal. Not just the body, but the soul, which is vastly more important. If I have learned anything in life it is to express how you feel because feelings buried alive never die (there is actually a book with that title) and keeping them inside may be what kills you. If you are experiencing negative emotions I encourage you to find creative ways to express them that won’t inflict pain or distress on others in your circle. If you have love or joy in your heart then express it. Tell people you love them, hug people more. You would be amazed what a simple hug can do for one’s blood pressure. I start and end my day with a hug from my husband and it feeds my soul. Go now and feed yours and stop the health blockade that keeps the healing at bay.